Transmute Your Negative Emotions with One Simple Shift!
Many people are harsh critics of themselves, and it gets in their way. I, too, have been a victim of mean-spirited, judgmental, and unoriginal self-assessment. The same insults and profanities would play in a continuous loop in my internal ear, until I learned that I could break the pattern consciously. When I made the discovery that I was creating all of the suffering in my life, I tried countless techniques to address the problem. However, that label- "problem"- and the practice of focusing on what I was doing "wrong" was not a very empowering approach to self-love. The only "problem" was that I was missing some pertinent information about the mechanics of the headquarters of my operating system. What I've since learned is that the brain continuously evaluates through the process of inquiry.
In other words, it's constantly asking questions to process and digest its assessment of our environment, our performance, our relationships, whether we should fight, flee, or freeze, etc. It will then search for cues in our surroundings and our memory banks for data that supports the basis of the question presented. This evaluation will then elicit an emotional response to the brain's conclusion. For the most part, these questions and associations have been programmed through repetition and take place under the radar of our conscious minds.
People who often limit themselves subconsciously and experience low-vibrational emotions have the tendency to habitually ask low quality questions. This is great news! We can set ourselves up for joy, gratitude, euphoria, and other high vibrational emotions simply by deliberately and consciously increasing the frequency that we pose the appropriate questions, which will pull our focus toward the evidence of or opportunity for that desired response. For example, I consistently ask, "How did I make the world a better place today?" every night when I come home and decompress from the work day. This allows me to celebrate my perceived successes rather than the "mistakes" I've made or ways I was "victimized". My awareness that I will be consciously asking myself this question in the evening pushes me to seek out and act on opportunities to give during my day. Then during my evening inquiry, I am able to pull up data that supports the idea of having achieved my goal to help others. I associate that positive reaction with my abilities and character, which inevitably raises my level of self-esteem.
When you build momentum in any direction through regular practice, it quickly shifts the direction of your life. Change is inevitable, so why not choose to make progress in a conscious way? If you're experiencing suffering of any kind, I assure you that, in part, it is because you are asking a low quality question, such as "Why me?" or "How could I be so stupid?" Replace those stale and stagnant questions with more useful ones, which may sound more like "What did I learn from this?" or "What will I change about my approach the next time this situation presents itself?" Progress really is that simple. Begin by consciously asking yourself a high quality question once in the morning and again at night. Then ask two. Then three. Eventually, I recommend having a set of 8 to 10 questions that you ask yourself once in the morning and once in the evening that invite you to focus on attitudes and behaviors in which you place immense importance. What are some questions you could ask yourself to sustain your focus in a desired direction? FREE YOURSELF once and for all from the debilitating, pessimistic patterning of asking low value questions!