top of page
  • Rachael Marie Shaffer, RMT

💕Calling in the One: Day 30

Having a healthy amount of selfishness is so necessary, especially in romantic relationship. No one respects a doormat, and when the respect is gone, so is the romantic spark. So, saying "no" when we mean no actually preserves the relationship. I'm still learning this experientially because, of course, it makes sense logically. Who could argue with that? Passive agressiveness and giving for covert intentions are some prime attraction killers, but who hasn't done that at some point? It's so important to be open and honest with ourselves and our loved ones (when it's appropriate). Giving out of generosity is a beautiful thing, but giving to trick someone into liking us is just really illogical, and yet, here we are. 😂 Really does just happen like gravity when it goes unchecked, am I right?

I also loved how Thomas backed up Marianne Williamson's thoughts on ego, writing about how we need to develop a sense of self before we have something to give up. I've learned through my spiritual inquiry and path that I went through a premature ascension, also known as spiritual bypassing, which is when the first three chakras aren't developed properly. In fact, we kind of ignore them altogether-- very common in the spiritual community. Who can relate with this? So, my sense of Self was never fully developed, which is why self-discovery and inquiry are so important to me now. Becoming selfless doesn't mean we never develop a self in the first place. It means we actually have something that we are offering in sacrifice. This thought was so eloquently written and practically though out that it just lit up my brain as I integrated it. 💡

What were your "aha" moments from this chapter? Comment below!

If you'd rather share in private, don't hesitate to email me at

Warmest Wishes, Rachael

4 views0 comments
bottom of page