• Rachael Marie Shaffer, RMT

💕Calling in the One: Day 39


I'm sort of dumbfounded how these chapters lead into the next. It's incredible. Today, Katherine Woodward Thomas talks about taking responsibility for your part in relationships and not making the other wrong -- walking the middle way of seeing your point of view AND the other person's. I actually had to put this into practice today, which is incredible. My boundaries were crossed and, even when I stated them and said "No", was ignored and trespassed. My privacy was disrespected, and it all felt so horrible. I had to take a walk to cool off emotionally, something I'm just now learning to do. I was tempted to make a dramatic move and cut someone out of my life, but I've recently learned from someone I really care about that I will inevitably regret it after I calm down, and it will only damage a relationship further, sometimes beyond repair.

I was stewing in anger and frustration as I took a walk in nature, which was anything but peaceful at first. There was rain here recently, so bugs were swarming everywhere and seemed to reflect the confusion of thoughts in my head as I attempted to swat both away from me. The symbolism was not lost on me. Nearing the end of my walk, I had softened considerably, and the rage turned into sadness. I'm much more comfortable with sadness and know how to release it properly. I was able to return to the situation and voice my boundary articulately and express my feelings around what happened. I remembered today's lesson and expressed my understanding of the others' points of view and worked really hard not to shame them -- only ask for what I need to happen. I was surprised not only that they understood my point of view completely and empathized, but also that I felt closer to THEM and a mounting tension eased. Who knew that expressing my negative emotions could be beneficial?! I seriously underestimate people, including myself. So happy that I'm growing! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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Warmest Wishes, Rachael

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